Writing A Good Pen Pal Letter

What makes a good letter? For those of us who write letters often it's just a matter of sitting down with a letter from your pal for inspiration and the time to write away. There are some who don't find the act of correspondence such an easy task, however, and want to know how others make it look so easy.

What components make up a letter that is a joy to receive and one you will want to go back and read again? I don't think it's just one thing that makes a letter memorable, but a combination of several ingredients. Certainly a well presented letter is always a welcome sight, especially on a day when it accompanies a stack of bills. But even on it's own, pretty stationery and eye-catching mail art ensure it's a letter you can't wait to open and read.

There is just something about a letter that is pleasing to the eye. Don't panic if you aren't the creative type, there are many things that can be used to dress up a letter. Writing with a bright colored ink, pictures clipped from a magazine, even a defining line you've ruled around the edge of your letter and envelope will do the trick.

And remember, it is essential that your pal can read your writing. If your handwriting is illegible, the flow of the letter is interrupted because one has to stop and figure out what this word or that one may be. It's understandable that some have limitations which hinder their handwriting skills so perhaps having someone type or write your letter can be arranged, but if not, do tell your pal you have difficulties so they understand.

Of course, once opened, even if the letter inside is as lovely as the envelope, it won't hold anyone's attention long if it's not interesting. Filling your letter with common interests you share with your pal as well as writing about daily experiences is a good start. Don't stop there though. Ask questions just as if your pal were sitting across the table from you having a chat. Encourage your pal to ask questions too. That will give you both something to build on when you respond to each others letters.

On the same note, asking too many questions may make replying to your letter difficult. You may find that you get a letter in return that is just answer after answer to your questions and that can be a bit boring in its own right. It's important to have balance, so as a rule ask at least two questions.

Some pals like to write long letters; something that you just sink right into and get carried away with. Writing a long letter can be a little daunting to some so it's crucial to write what you feel comfortable with and not struggle to add content just so you can match your pals page count. I can guarantee your pal will appreciate your reply more if it's written from the heart and not just filled up with wording to pad it out. Rambling dialogues can be a turn-off if they go on and on and don't say very much.

Finding a tuck-in is a treat in itself. Adding a little something when you write your pal is a thoughtful addition to any letter. It can take the form of a postcard, a bookmark, a recipe or a variety of other things that fit nicely into an envelope. Don't worry if you can't send something in every letter. It's the thought that counts; an old sentiment, but a very true one. Every now and then it's a nice touch to add a tuck-in for your pal but it's not something you must do without fail each and every time you write, otherwise it just becomes a chore.

In the end, letter writing is all about exchanging thoughts. It's something that gives pleasure to both the reader and the writer. Trying to write a letter to please someone isn't what it's all about. It's a conversation that flows easily between two individuals by being genuine. So, my advice to budding writers is to be nice, be yourself, ask questions along the way and be prepared to get thoroughly delighted with the responses you will receive from new pals.